The Question is, Do you tell her, her hair loss looks terrible? Most likely, you want to be as supportive as you can to your close friends. But what happens when being supportive means being less than frank and honest about unflattering hair loss? As a close friend, you know it’s bothering her. Do you have a heart-to-heart talk with her? As tough as this may sound, the answer is generally, yes. We know because we run into this scenario all the time at National Hair Centers. Many of our women clients come to us with a support of a close girlfriend.
Here’s the real truth: most likely, your friend is already feeling bad about her hair loss. It’s something she’s already thinking about every time is looks in the mirror. It’s sad but true, that in today’s culture, beautiful healthy hair is closely linked to a woman’s youth, sex appeal, even her very identity. For many women, thinning hair can be a devastating blow to their self-confidence. Although she may not have expressed it to you, chances are she is fully aware of it herself. What she may not be aware of however, is there are effective medical and non-medical solutions for hair loss. That’s where you can be supportive. Encourage her to explore her options with a hair loss professional.
The first step is to determine where you friend is “at” about her hair loss. There are two basic scenarios about where they may be emotionally in regard to their hair loss. It may be her way of “venting” about it or maybe she just wants reassurance from you that it’s not that bad. Either way, this is an easy scenario to let her know there are solutions. Just wait for her to bring it up herself and discuss it with her in a sensitive way.
- She Mentions Her Hair Loss to You A Lot: It may be a coping mechanism. She might mention her hair loss to you as a way to “vent” or to get reassurance that it’s not that bad. Either way, it’s easy to talk to her about it in a sensitive way. Let her know that she doesn’t have to live with her thinning hair.
- She Doesn’t Mention Her Hair Loss: As a close friend, you know that it is bothering her, but she has never mentioned it to you. It may be a painful topic for her. This is when as a friend you can be most supportive. Have the courage to bring it up to her in a way that is compassionate and loving. Our experience shows that most women respond to a conversational opening and will discuss it. On occasion, though, she may change the conversation almost immediately and not want to talk about it with you. That’s OK. It doesn’t mean that the conversation was a waste of time or that she doesn’t care. Most likely, she wants to process the information on her own, in her own way. Never push. Back off and let her know you are there for her if she ever wants to talk about it.
If your friend wants to do something about her thinning hair, the first step is to talk to a hair loss professional. National Hair Centers and most other large hair restoration centers across the country offer a free initial consultation. It’s a great way for your friend to explore her hair loss options in a safe, supportive environment. Most hair loss consultants have experienced hair loss themselves and know what your friend is going through. As always, if your friend is in the Phoenix, Scottsdale, Glendale, Mesa, or Tempe Arizona area we invite her to call and schedule a no obligation appointment with one of our hair loss experts at National Hair Centers. By the way, if your friend wants you to attend the consultation as “moral support” you’re welcome, too!
The conversation and support you give your friend may have a life changing impact on her. It could set the ball in motion for her to deal with her thinning hair issues and find a permanent solution. Good Luck!